Author: Dominitoy.com
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Do you often feel frustrated because you don't understand your partner's kinks?
Do you often feel anxious because you find it difficult to open up to your partner about your own kinks?
This can lead to a bland and unexciting life, where you feel like you only know 50% of your partner.
Don't worry, today Rabbit will teach you how to deeply understand and explore your partner's kinks.
02 Method 1: Check Search History
The first step is the search history method.
No matter how tight-lipped a person is, their search history is always honest.
Take me as an example, my search history is frighteningly honest:
- Mud
- Leg pressing
- Bouldering
- Wrestling
…
It's so abstract! Can these things even be kinks?
But once you search, you'll understand. It's an ocean of genres.
Even the most niche keywords will have three thousand "likes" from people who share your tastes!
So, open your partner's browser, or directly ask for their "study materials" folder.
You will definitely be able to find clues about their kinks from their viewing habits.
But the problem is,
What if their search history is completely normal?
03 Method 2: Browse Shopping Apps Together
Then you can only—
Sacrifice yourself a little.
First, train your shopping app. Continuously search for various categories of toys and products. When browsing, be sure to cover everything: for men, for women, cheap, expensive, beautiful, and bizarre. Click on everything to feed the algorithm an unpredictable user profile.
When your homepage starts showing all kinds of props, congratulations, you've successfully trained your account.
At this point, call your partner over to browse the shopping app together. Comment on the various unnamable toys and outfits recommended by the big data. Talk about "this could be fun," "this is so ugly, it's a turn-off," or "this is so beautiful, I want it! We can try it next week!"
Their reactions to products corresponding to different kinks—whether they want to try them or are repulsed—are a true reflection of their inner feelings.
Creative uses of shopping apps:
- If you haven't managed to train the app to your liking, you can also find a comprehensive prop store with a wide variety of items. Browse through them one by one. The buyer shows and usage examples are very complete, and there's always something to inspire you!
- If you happen to empty your partner's shopping cart and have a great time with them, your relationship will be greatly enhanced!
- There are no ads here, isn't that surprising? Hahahaha!
04 Method 3: Thoroughly Understand Your Partner's Kinks
So, if your partner openly shares their "study materials,"
How can we thoroughly understand, explore, and even integrate our own kinks?
Everyone has their favorite works!
And that classic in their collection represents the crown jewel of their kinks!
So we need to:
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Use statistical methods to summarize their favorite styles, works…
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If they have favorite actors, studios, authors, writers, or artists, you can dig deeper around those creators. For example, players who like a certain K-initialed castle series tend to be more into European and hardcore styles; players who like female-oriented fantasy brands pay more attention to atmosphere and gentleness.
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Find common ground and seek out parts that are consistent with, or even identical to, your own kinks. Give strong positive reinforcement, for example:
"Wow, this, this, I love this too, let's watch it together!"
"Ah, I remember this one so well, you have great taste."
Continuously reinforce and give positive feedback to the things you both like, and ignore the things you don't. Over time, their kinks will gradually align with yours.
This is what you might call upward management.
05 Method 4: Read More Popular Science Articles
If you're too lazy to explore, then read more popular science articles!
- The Most "Sultry" BDSM Prop—Gas Mask Play
- A Brief History of Butt Plugs
- This Kind of Play is "Unleashing the Beast" Hahaha
- Is "Urolagnia" a "Proper" Kink?
Every time, I get surprised comments:
"This is a thing?!"
"Me too!"
The moments in our youth when we quietly explored our niche kinks alone were somewhat dark.
But slowly, we discovered that the world is much more tolerant than we imagined. It turns out that every lonely soul is secretly looking for its own kind.
The public account is like a shelter, where people bring their little quirks, stories, and secrets to chat and exchange smiles. Someone nods, someone resonates, and someone finally says softly: "So I'm not the one."
No matter how niche the kink or how special the soul, finding your own kind is to be seen with gentleness.
This is probably a happy thing—
That we and our partners can accept and understand each other, talk together, and play together.
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