The 20 Circle Entry Questions
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What are your current BDSM roles and interests?
- Are you primarily Dominant, submissive, switch, Top, Bottom, or still exploring?
- What kinks or play types are you most curious about or experienced with?
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What does consent look like for you?
- How do you prefer to give and receive consent?
- Do you expect explicit verbal negotiation, written agreements, or ongoing check-ins?
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What are your soft limits and hard limits?
- Soft limits: things you might consider with the right partner and setup.
- Hard limits: non-negotiable no’s. Be specific (e.g., “no breath play,” “no humiliation involving slurs”).
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What are your safewords and nonverbal signals?
- Common system: “Green/Yellow/Red.”
- Nonverbal backups for gagged or non-verbal scenes (e.g., hand squeeze, tapping out, dropping a token).
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What safety practices do you follow?
- Negotiation, pre-scene checklists, safewords, toy cleaning, first-aid kit, aftercare planning.
- For impact/rope/edge play: mention skills, risk awareness, or certifications if applicable.
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What experience do you have, and how do you learn?
- Years active, mentorship, classes, workshops, vetted events.
- Are you open to learning or shadowing more experienced members?
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What kinds of scenes interest you right now?
- Examples: impact (spanking, paddles, floggers), bondage (rope, cuffs), sensation play, D/s protocol, service, roleplay, humiliation (consensual), orgasm control, edging, chastity.
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What types of scenes do you want to avoid?
- List content categories you are not seeking in this community (e.g., CNC roleplay, medical play, public humiliation).
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What are your health considerations?
- Relevant physical or mental health notes that affect play (e.g., joint issues, migraines, PTSD triggers).
- Allergies or materials sensitivities (e.g., latex, nickel).
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What boundaries do you have around identity and privacy?
- Photo/video policies, real names vs. scene names.
- Social media tagging and event privacy preferences.
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What are your STI/sexual health practices?
- Testing frequency, barrier use preferences, fluid bonding status.
- Whether sexual contact is on the table for you in scenes.
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What are your expectations around aftercare?
- What helps you land safely after play (e.g., water, blanket, quiet space, cuddles, check-ins, chocolate).
- Timing needs: immediate, hours later, next-day check-in.
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What are your communication preferences?
- In-scene feedback style: subtle cues vs. explicit check-ins.
- Out-of-scene: messaging platforms, response times, scheduling.
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How do you handle limits, mistakes, or misunderstandings?
- De-escalation strategies, pausing a scene, addressing harm, and repair.
- Openness to feedback and community standards.
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What toys and gear do you use or prefer?
- Impact implements, restraints, rope, sensory tools, gags, hoods, plugs, electro-stim, chastity devices.
- Cleaning routines and storage; personal-vs-shared equipment boundaries. See our toy cleaners and disinfectants.
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What are your expectations around mentorship, vetting, and references?
- Are you comfortable providing references or engaging in a trial period?
- Interest in mentorship as mentor or mentee.
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What public vs. private play boundaries do you have?
- Comfort level with demos, parties, private sessions.
- Dress code, protocol levels, and etiquette expectations.
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What power exchange dynamics interest you?
- Short-term scene D/s, long-term D/s, 24/7 elements, service dynamics, bratting/brat-taming, authority transfer contracts.
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What relationship structure do you practice?
- Monogamous, polyamorous, open, solo poly, relationship anarchy.
- Expectations around discretion, scheduling, and partner communication.
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What do you hope to gain from this community?
- Learning goals, safe play opportunities, social connection, mentorship, leadership, or event volunteering.
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